The Art and Science of Emotional Healing — Why You Suffer Mentally and Emotionally, and Tips to Free Yourself. An Introduction
Q. Lewis, why do so many of us who have material security still suffer? I am always worrying, my mind wanders, and I can’t seem to find meaning in my life.
A. Usually our suffering is self-created. Suffering is disruptive and at times necessary mental, emotional, psychological, and also a spiritual experience of unpleasantness and aversion associated with harm or threat of harm. On the positive side, suffering can contribute to how you organize meaning in your emotional world and much more. One should never assume that all suffering is negative. The key is to understand which suffering is essential and which is a self-created illusion.
Some suffering is an expression of natural law — an essential tool for survival. For the unaware individual, it is often a negative experience, especially if this individual has made poor choices in the past.
Compassion, one of the most worthy, and admired of human qualities; often comes from recognizing the suffering of others. Their suffering may present great meaning and direction to your own life, motivating, and also inspiring you to serve others in need. This service, in turn, creates a larger sense of community.
What determines how intense your suffering is or will be? The origin and cause of suffering; its processes, the meaning it presents to the individual who seems to be suffering; it's related social, personal, and cultural behaviors; the knowledge of how to manage, reduce, or eliminate the suffering; and the benefits one might accrue for having suffered will all influence the intensity of that suffering. Add to this the frequency of each occurrence, plus the concurrence of mental, emotional, psychological, and also spiritual factors involved. Now by combining these with the duration of the suffering, and you have a wide range of experiences related to suffering.
If you are to understand the meaning of your life it is essential that you explore how and why you suffer. This can be done by creating a simple morning program of meditation, contemplation, exercise, and some organizing. If you are a slob or a pack-rat just take ten things a day of your pile and get them organized…and don’t add any new things to the pile
All human suffering, whether necessary or self-created, is tied to obstacles that have meaning for us. Such an obstacle may be associated with some physical or psychological discomfort, or spiritually speaking, from the “pain of longing” — the seeking of something deeper than the world of form. Who can say what it might be?
Transcending obstacles defines much of what goes on in life. Think about it. It is likely that you function day to day on “automatic pilot,” then suddenly you experience a usually unexpected obstacle. Now, this obstacle might be walking up the steps of a non-functioning escalator, or waiting in a long line at the post office. It may be something equally annoying like a sudden red light that causes you to hit the brakes on your car. These types of challenges are what get your attention.
When things, events, or people limit your freedom, these “obstacles” take on meaning. We are also often drawn to things of great beauty, sensuality, and elegance. These things also have meaning. So as you can see, to notice something, positive or negative is to give it meaning.
What does it mean for something to have meaning? This is an important question. Many great thinkers have proposed that all meaning is based on your perception as well as shifts in your perception. I like to perceive of myself as a player in the great game of life.
Many of us go through life unconsciously. We each decide arbitrarily that some things are important while others are not. Something might have meaning now that did not have any meaning just a few moments ago.
Does ‘meaning’ have to have a particular quality or quantity to it? Will any sense of meaning do? How would you even know if something had more than a superficial meaning? What’s the link between meaning and significance in daily action? If something has meaning for you, does it have ‘meaning’ because it reinforces your sense of being — or is something deeper going on? Is meaning anything more than what grabs your attention?
Your answers to these questions about the “meaning of life” may have great implications for how you think, make choices, use language, and communicate with others in the process of daily living. Without this inquiry, you may be destined to a life of confusion or intellectual, emotional, and spiritual numbness.
I believe that if you treat life as if it is a game, it is easier to master your mind and emotions, as well as the people, places, and things that might cause you to suffer. I have studied a system for doing this called applied game theory
To read more about how applied game theory can reduce suffering and lead to happiness please check out this Medium.com Story — https://lewiscoaches.medium.com/why-game-theory-is-the-secret-to-great-and-enduring-happiness-24adf32bef5
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To read more about emotional healing please check out this Medium.com Story —
The Art and Science of Emotional Healing — #2 How Superman Heals Depression through Comic Book Therapy
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